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Books by Paul Coughlin


No More Christian Nice GuyWhen Being Nice—Instead of “Good”—Hurts Men, Women and Children

In this ground-breaking book with a timeless message to men and also women, Paul Coughlin explains why being a “nice guy” is disastrous to everyone involved. Instead, Paul shows how the abundant life that God has for us is found through a more assertive orientation toward life, growing faith, saving marriage, bolstering careers, and in some cases even saving life itself.

“Paul Coughlin is challenging our thinking on what it means to be God’s man in the 21st Century. The Apostle Paul pens in 1 Corinthians 16:13, “act like men.” That begs the question, What is a man? Coughlin is asking that question. This book is his excellent answer.” — Rev. Emerson Eggerichs Ph.D. author of Love and Respect: the Love She Most Desires and the Respect he Desperately Needs

“John Eldredge gave men permission to be “wild at heart.” Paul Coughlin shows us how to do it. This book is a road map to a larger life.” — David Murrow, author of Why Men Hate Going to Church

“Paul has bold, powerful, and even shocking words for the church–especially regarding God’s celebration of sexual passion. If the church wants to get a handle on rampant divorce and infidelity, Paul has some words of wisdom we dare not ignore.” — Dave Meurer, author of Good Spousekeeping: A His and Hers Guide to Couplehood

Price: $15


Your Personal Battle Plan for the Good Guy Rebellion

No More Christian Nice Guy Study Group

Boys youth group using No More Christian Nice Guy as a study resource

It’s true; nice guys aren’t always nice. This Study Guide dives deeper into the Nice Guy problem, helping you discover the true biblical model of
manhood. Each chapter contains several exercises to help you move from passivity to assertiveness, plus a bevy of bonus information, including additional help for single Christian Nice Guys, which provides insights into the Christian Nice Guy problem not found in No More Christian Nice Guy. So join the Good Guy Rebellion and start living your life as a Christian Good Guy.Suggestions for small-group leaders make this suitable for use in groups or on your own.

Price: $10


Raise Assertive, Confident and Strong Children

This ground-breaking book in the field of parenting explains how with the best of intentions an alarming number of parents are raising fragile, passive and even narcissistic children due to over-parenting, creating prime candidates for bullying throughout their school years. Here Coughlin explains how to raise assertive, confident and strong children who grow in courage, character and leadership, among other life-affirming qualities“Our job as parents is to raise responsible adults who have courage and character. Paul Coughlin’s wonderful book will equip you for this amazing journey of parenting. It’s a life-changing book.” — Jim Burns, Ph.D., President, HomeWord, author of Confident Parenting

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Inspiration and Practical Help for Dads

Courage. Assertiveness. Love for God. Protecting kids from bullying.

These are some of the traits of great dads. In this accessible quick read, Coughlin draws on his experience as a dad, soccer coach, and leading voice in men’s ministries to equip men to be the dads their kids need.

He challenges men to unleash their God-given potential to raise strong sons and daughters. The perfect gift for Dad when a greeting card isn’t enough.

Price: $4


No More Christian Nice Girl

Be the Strong, Confident, and Caring Woman You Were Meant to Be

Tired of doing all you can for others while your relationships remain stuck in neutral–or headed in reverse? Paul Coughlin and psychologist Jennifer Degler show how being nice can harm you and drain the life out of your relationships. They explore the keys to fulfillment at home, work, church, and even in the bedroom. You’ll discover that emulating the real Jesus is the key to transforming from a Christian Nice Girl into an authentic, powerful woman of loving faith.



Why Men Check Out and What You Can Do to Create the Intimacy You Desire

Frustrated over your stalled marriage? Tired of enduring a less-than-satisfying relationship with your husband? Feeling anger or guilt about wanting more from your passive “nice guy”? Paul and Sandy Coughlin understand the life you’re leading, because once Paul was a Christian Nice Guy husband and Sandy was his frustrated wife. Their freeing message will help you understand the inner life of your emotionally detached husband as well as what you can do–and shouldn’t do–to create a more satisfying relationship. They’ll help you understand the forces that make men passive, how to handle issues of anger, respect, and resentment, and learn practical ways to nurture intimacy. Married…But Not Engaged informs, instructs, encourages, and inspires as it shows how you and your husband can draw closer together.“This book informs us with laser-beam accuracy why many nice guys detach from their marriage and what loving wives can do about it. They brilliantly expose an often overlooked default-drive of many relationships: how niceness leads to passivity which leads to humdrum which leads to resentment which leads to lack of intimacy and relationship crisis. Read this book and discover how to be engaged and married at the same time!” — Dr. Paul Coleman, Author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Intimacy“The Coughlins have put together this empathetic guide to help women understand the inner lives of their emotionally absent men and facilitate change. While the authors use biblical texts to illustrate their message, it is based on sound psychology and therapeutic techniques. The writing is clear and not condescending; the information offered will help any married couple dealing with passive aggression and rigidity, regardless of religious affiliation. Recommended for all libraries.” — Library Journal (

Price: $15 (Not available in bookstores)